Ok, maybe there is a place for “Rules, Adages, or Guidelines” (Read my last post first).
Some from the book that I like:
Buy anything you want at the grocery store; cooking is always cheaper than eating out.
Start where you are (an essential part of the Law of Attraction).
Talk to strangers.
Be polite and fair.
By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished, and What you do every day matters more than what you do once in awhile.
First things first. Definitely. It’s all about getting priorities straight. Drinking enough water is critical to having enough energy to finish the project you blaze into, and eating before you blood sugar dives is crucial to having a mood that permits politeness and forgiveness. Similarly, like “the cook eats first”, one has to take care of oneself before being capable of going out in the world and giving. You must be replete to be generous (therefore taking care to “fill the tank” is essentially unselfish).
If it takes less than a minute to put away, or do it right, do it now. My corollary: If it’s almost as fast to do it as it is to write it on a list, just do it.
Things that make you happy don’t always feel happy. Damn skippy. Challenging and threatening things that make you feel nauseous in the doing can the most rewarding to have done. To wit: marathons.
Here’s a few all my own:
If a system doesn’t function, change the system. My husband gives me fantastic feedback on whether a system works (like, where things belong). If it works, he puts things back where they “go”, because that’s the easiest, obvious place to put them. If the system doesn’t work, he finds someplace else to drop them that displeases me, and I know my so-clever system isn’t functional and needs to be adapted. You can’t force people to fit a system; only the system can be changed. Whole design industries have grown out of this.
Open a letter only when you have the time to write a response. “I need to write them a letter back” guilt escalates in direct proportion to time elapsed between opening and responding. This totally eliminates that.
If it doesn’t sing to you, don’t do/read/watch it. There’s too much out there to bother with anything you feel mediocre about.
Don’t go anywhere empty handed. On the way into another room, bring something with you that belongs in the other place. This is the best way to keep everywhere clean, without the time to stress about cleaning up, scheduling cleaning up, and spending a chunk of time cleaning up.
If the book sucks, just stop reading it. I’m working hard on this one. I always hope it will get better, redeem itself with the shocking ending, or the argument needs more time to fully flower. The bestselling status and rave reviews means others have found it wonderful! After 1000’s of books, I’m starting to grasp that it really doesn’t get better, and the best choice is to put the book down. There’s an inverse proportion between pages read vs. remaining and how much the book sucks vs. likelihood it will get better. All that you get for finishing a shitty book is anger at wasting all that time on a shitty book.